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One of the deepest longings of mankind is to be loved. We will do almost anything to be loved. Our whole being craves and thirsts for love, and not for any kind of love, but for pure “unconditional” love. Have you ever wondered why this is so? We will fight each other, manipulate each other, control each other and even destroy each other when we do not feel loved. For love, we will try desperately to please each other, sometimes at any cost. We will perform for each other and allow ourselves to be used and humiliated by each other, all for the sake of love—for just one crumb or drop of human love.

Have you experienced a very destructive, unhealthy relationship? Some relationships can wreak havoc on you emotionally and cause confusion, fear, timidity, hostility, or coercion. There are other unhealthy relationships where you feel distant, ignored, unvalued, and unfulfilled but you find yourself adapting to it, feeling it is better than nothing. Why? Because of one crumb of love?  I have met many individuals who are battered and abused both emotionally and physically, and they always say to me, “But I love him.” I have talked to teenage girls who intentionally got pregnant. The reason they give: “I wanted someone to love me and need me.”

This is no mystery; we all need and want to be loved. I too have felt that same sense of despair and desperation and would do almost anything to fill my cup of tainted and unsatisfying human love, only to have to scrape the bottom of the barrel over and over again and come up short. How could we be so needy and sometimes stoop so low to be loved? And why do we continue to pursue human love with a vengeance only to find ourselves empty and unfulfilled?

Why, because our Father made us this way. Our Heavenly Father, created us for Himself and to give us as gifts to His Beloved Son. We were never created to live and exist from human love, but only from our Father’s love. We were created to be containers of our Father’s pure, heavenly, untainted, infinite, and unconditional love. We were created to experience a love that transcends us, that overflows from us, a love that consumes us. And this love is only found in God. He knew that one day we would come to the end of ourselves and long for something different, and thirst for something to satisfy us when we have done and tried everything to appease ourselves. He knew that we would one day go searching and seeking for His love and once we apprehended it we would never leave home again, attempting to be satisfied otherwise.

One of my favorite passages in the Bible is about the woman at the well. It truly depicts the story of every human soul in search of love. We go from thing to thing, person to person and quickly tire throwing each other away when our needs are no longer being met. One day she met Jesus, who told her about a love, that when she drank it, she would never thirst or long for human love the same way again. In Christ, we can drink and be satisfied. In Christ, He fills the longings of our souls. In Christ, we experience a love so rich, so pure, that one drop satisfies us.

If you are hungry, or if you are thirsty for love…come inside where your Beloved resides, sit and drink of His love.

Tresca Grannum

About the Author

Tresca Grannum is the Executive Director and founder of His Fullness Ministries, Inc. and HFM Counseling Center. His Fullness Ministries, Inc. is a Christ-Centered Counseling and Multiservice Agency located outside of Austin in Cedar Park, Texas. Tresca has a Master in Social Work. She mentors, trains, and counsels individuals, couples, and families. Tresca is a Commissioned Minister for Network 220 formerly Exchanged Life Ministries, International. Tresca also attended St. Michael’s Seminary and is trained in Pastoral Counseling and is certified in the Advance Exchanged Life Counseling Model. Tresca has been in love with Jesus for over 35 years and through brokenness and full surrender to Christ she has become “nothing” in order that he may be her “everything.” Because of Tresca’s past emotional and spiritual struggles, her passion has always been to assist others who are succumbed by life difficulties whether they are spiritual, emotional, psychological or physical. Tresca’s aim in her work is always to enlighten, encourage, and then empower others to understand who they really are In Christ and how HE IS wisdom, love, and grace and everything they could ever need. Tresca has been married 35 years to her beloved Anthony. Even though she could love no one else more than her Lord, Anthony is next in line; he is her anchor in life. Tresca enjoys teaching, mentoring, singing, song writing, worshipping, reading, and making people laugh. Tresca’s greatest discovery is that true success lies not in what I accomplish but in what I help others to accomplish through Christ. “For He satisfies the longing soul and fills the hungry soul with good.” Psalms 107:9, Amplified version Website: http://hisfullness.com & http://hisfullness.org Email: tresca@hisfullness.com