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I sometimes have homosexual thoughts. Does this mean that I am a homosexual?

Rather than recognizing yourself as a homosexual, and accepting a label that the world would give you, even for having such thoughts, you recognize yourself as a new creature in Christ. You are agreeing with Christ when he says he no longer recognizes you according to what you use to be, but according to Christ living through you. He calls you new in 2 Corinthians 5:14-18:


For the love of Christ controls us, having concluded this, that one died for all, therefore all died; and He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf. Therefore from now on we recognize no man according to the flesh; even though we have known Christ according to the flesh, yet now we know {Him} {thus} no longer. Therefore if any man is in Christ, {he is} a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. Now all {these} things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ, and gave us the ministry of reconciliation…

In order to gain acceptance from those around you, the temptation may be to agree with people around you who say you are a certain thing. Therefore to carry out that behavior would be being true to yourself. But in Christ being true to who you are means living and walking allowing Christ to live His life through you. Christ already accepts you fully and totally. He loves you with a kind of love that no man or woman can. How do we know this has really happened? Well Dave, it seems clear from your letter that the Holy Spirit within you is telling you that you are righteous because of Christ. It does not matter what has happened in the past, Christ paid the price for you and me. I suspect that at times you feel unworthy, and may to begin to believe what other people say. Each time you overcome the temptation by reading or hearing God’s word to you, there is victory that you are experiencing.

Ecclesiates 4:9-12 gives us wisdom about sharing our burden with others, and being strengthened:


Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm {alone?} And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three {strands} is not quickly torn apart.