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The Love You’re Looking For


There’s a pattern of thinking I often pick up on among friends who are stuck in a tired, burdensome, unhealthy, system of religion. They almost always think, “God withholds His love and you must submit to the ‘system’ to earn that love”.

It’s very easy to buy into this way of thinking because there are two things that are true, not only for them but for you:

1) We crave love.

2) We’re quite sure that all love has stipulations and conditions.

Ultimately this is why unhealthy religion can so magnificently manipulate people, right? However, listen to how Romans 3 contradicts this idea.

Romans 3: 22-26

22 We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are.

23 For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. 24 Yet God, with undeserved kindness, declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins. 25 For God presented Jesus as the sacrifice for sin. People are made right with God when they believe that Jesus sacrificed his life, shedding his blood. This sacrifice shows that God was being fair when he held back and did not punish those who sinned in times past, 26 for he was looking ahead and including them in what he would do in this present time. God did this to demonstrate his righteousness, for he himself is fair and just, and he declares sinners to be right in his sight when they believe in Jesus.

This is huge because as long as my heart is beating, I CRAVE love.

It’s true. We’ll do almost anything to belong to someone or to belong to something including, but certainly not limited to, committing to a tired old list of legalistic rules and laws.

I know you guys know this, but just pause to think about the implications of Romans 3.

What if today I walked in the truth that God is not in fact waiting for us to earn his love, but that he is passionately pursing us with His Love.

So how about you?

Do you crave love?

Do you think there can be such a thing as unconditional love? And if so, why do we always revert back to trying to earn God’s love?

Pete Wilson

About the Author

Pete Wilson is the founding and senior pastor of Cross Point Church in Nashville, Tennessee, a committed church community that he and his wife, Brandi, planted in 2003. Over the course of 9 years, Cross Point has grown to reach more than 5,000 people each weekend through its four campuses located around the Nashville area, and online. As one of the fastest growing churches in America, Pete’s ministry–an outreach focused on helping people become devoted to Christ, irrevocably committed to each other, and relentlessly dedicated to reaching those outside of God’s family with the Gospel–has made Pete a frequent speaker at national and international church conferences. Pete gained national attention in 2010 when Thomas Nelson published his best-selling book, Plan B, a title that has been printed in five languages and launched Putting Plan B into Action, a 6-week DVD curriculum that serves as a study companion to the book. Empty Promises, Pete’s much-anticipated second book, releases in spring 2012. Pete earned his Bachelors degree in Communications from Kentucky Western University an attended seminary at Southern Seminary in Louisville, KY. Pete enjoys the outdoors, fly fishing, and Titans football.