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Why does my husband become angry and resentful when I try to help him?

I believe the command given in 1 Peter 3:1-2 is very relevant this situation:Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

Passive men are often very sensitive about being criticized by their wives because they are usually ashamed of their passivity. When a wife points out something they have already perceived is a shortcoming, her comments can be especially condemning. Then he will react in a defensive way by either becoming angry or ignoring the situation.

Therefore, your best plan would be to encourage him whenever possible. It is important to avoid even subtle hinting or manipulation, because the husband will likely recognize it and be resentful. What Peter is saying to the wife is to place her husband in the hands of God. Since it is the husband’s role to be the spiritual leader of the family, if the wife attempts to provide that leadership over the husband, she is violating God’s design for the marriage, and it will not work out well. She must focus on her own relationship with Christ, and give the burden of her husband to Him. Anabel has a chapter in her book, The Confident Woman, that talks about how to give a burden to God.